M, 32, MBA, WLTM DTE m/f for NSA fun. GSOH essential.

Lonely HeartsWe’ve just met and you make me an offer that sounds like this:

“Nice to meet you! It looks like you need my thing.

Here’s what it does and here’s the RESULT you get. Here are the FEATURES and BENEFITS.

Here are the TESTIMONIALS and here’s the PRICE. And the money-back GUARANTEE is here.

You can’t lose.”

And that’s a compelling offer, by any standard.

After all, you’ve hit the sweet spots:

  • Solves a real problem
  • Provides social proof
  • Gives a risk-reversal guarantee

But …

… it’s the first time that we’ve met. And there’s the rub.

Even though I’m a naive and trusting kind of fellow, I’m aching for something more. I guess we should get to know each other first.

It’s natural.

After all, I don’t give out on the first date.*

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How To Get Better At Everything

coulddobetterA few years ago I led an important webinar for an important client.

It was the first call in a series of twelve, spread over six weeks.

I’d never done one before, so it was a big deal. It was a new client I was keen to impress.

We had just over 120 people registered, each one paying $499.

And it was a disaster.

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9 Lessons From A $5k A Month Sales Trainer

You Can't Teach A Kid To Ride A Bike At A SeminarTo my mind, one of the best books on selling ever written – bar none – is “You Can’t Teach A Kid To Ride A Bike At A Seminar” by David Sandler.

David Sandler was a straight-talking, zero-fluff old-school salesman, who cut his teeth pounding pavements and picking up the dog-and-bone.

The Sandler System (first lesson from this email: name your intellectual property, it makes it irreplaceable) first came to my attention about four years ago.

I was sitting in a bar in Soho, London, shooting the Friday afternoon breeze with a couple of friends. We were all relatively new business owners.

One of them had just started working with a sales coach.

“Pah!” I scoffed. After all, who needs a sales coach?

But when told me that he was paying this guy $5k a month for twice-monthly group training, I started to listen.

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Wanna fight? Don’t.

AngryI woke up to an email from a real estate agent in Belgium.

It ruined my morning.

Emotional blackmail is the weakest, pissiest way to get your prospects or customers to do your bidding.

Which would, of course, be forgivable … if it worked.

But it doesn’t. Your clients aren’t your husband. You can’t lay down a guilt trip to get them doing what you want.

In this case, we gave her real estate firm an exclusive contract for 3 months to sell a property. After 6 months of no interest at all (bar one low offer), we opened it up to a couple more agencies.

Cue the guilt trip.

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Today’s email has been canceled

Confidential memoFrom the Head of Human Resources:

Dear Colleague,

I regret to inform you that today’s email has been canceled.

Your regular correspondent apologizes, but says that he sat at his desk for four hours today and nothing “came out”.

He was, it seems, overtaken by a peculiar and uncommon lethargy.

I suspect it may have been a result of one too many drinks yesterday. A late night and fully-charged week left him tired and emotional until around two o’clock this morning.

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